Letter to Triston Completed

A few weeks ago, I did a video blog entitled “letter to Triston”. I promised to post another video blog with the continuation this letter; however, time did not permit to do such. A lot of people inclusive of my  younger me wanted to hear what exactly I had to say to eleven year old Triston. Below is a copy of the entire letter, with everything I wanted to tell him.

Dear Triston, 

        you are now in std 5, you may not know this, but because of the gap between you and your dad, made your relationship stronger between you and your mom. At age eleven you won’t understand the lessons that your dad have thought you, like the time he promised to buy you that t shirt for your school bazaar and never showed up. At age 23 doing a social media blog you will then realised that he was teaching you the lessons of disappointments and not everything that’s promised is given.

All the questions you have been asking yourself would be answered in twelve years . You will realised that he did only what he knew how to. Remember when you use to question the racing of your heart beat when he would visit? Well it was one of the two that you thought it was; yes it was fright and not excitement. I wish I could stop you from blaming yourself for his behavior; you’re only a child and cannot be blame for his emotions.  Always remember that your mother has your back, you will be faced with a number of scenarios over the next twelve years and you will see one constant person always showing up, appreciate her.  Trying to over achieve at SEA would not make a difference in your father’s eyes, you might has well stop.

All the hurt, pain and disappointment are actually preparing you for a test, a test called “adulthood”. This test however has different sections, relationships, employment, living on your own and many others. Because you have been through disappointment already, you will find it easy to “jab and Move”. Jab and Move?  You are not yet familiar with this phrase; it would however become your philosophy towards life. Your stepdad would teach you this at a very depressing time in your life, only then you would begin seeing life as a boxing ring, where you Jab (make the punch) and Move (keep moving while being vigilant).

Your future seems bright, the sky is the limit, and passing SEA is the slightest of test you must go through. There is one called CXC, and another Tertiary education, O boy there are some fun times ahead. The people that you think would always be around will give you a shocker. As you always do, don’t get scared just yet, as mentioned, it’s called life and you’re going to make it. Questions about your father and his behavior you would not understand until age twenty three  when you have decided to confront the issue by writing on it. For now you’re only a child, and issues should be least of your problems, try to enjoy life.

PS.

You @ age 23