There's an old time saying that goes "mummy's baby...............daddy's maybe."! i would hear my grand mother say it all the time when referring to her grandchildren.
"Well i doh mind watching mi girl child children because ah sure they are my blood, they came from her, I can't say if mi son get horn or not".
Looking back now, i wonder if this longtime lingo is the cause and effects of the relationship between my biological dad and I.
But no ! my sister and him has a great relationship, hmmmmmmmm maybe its just me . Maybe its the fact that i look exactly like my mom, and i remind him of what he had,or the man he could have been.
As i am on the word Mom, must give kudos to that woman,She is the cause and effects of my upbringing.
It's amazing how mother's protect their young ones. This can be seen throughout the animal kingdom, mother's go out there way to protect their children from harm, hurt and even deceit.
The thing is....... there's only so much a mother can do in her son's life. She can instill values, teach how to be a gentleman even teach how to cook so that "no woman cut style on you".......But when scenarios arises that daddy were to teach, you then realises that, a boy needs his father but so too does a man.
This hit me when i was recently asked the question: "who taught you to ride a bike". When i commenting saying i never owned one, the look was as though I had just confessed to not knowing the name of my country. Mind you, it's not the fact that my mom could not afford it, rather it would be less time consuming to get me a monopoly for Christmas than having to teach me how to ride a bike on Christmas morning. And for my entire 23 years of existence it never dawn on me that i was never given a bike or taught how to ride one. Besides, who needs a bike anyway? because of that monopoly I can now make better financial decisions......being honest to myself i can clearly say a bike was never a factor to me,yet still in my adult years i had to answer the question.
And we may not see it ,hence the reason for my statement: a boy needs his father but so too does a man .
