Stepdad...Na, lets just leave it as Dad

There’s a saying by a Chinese philosopher “a journey of a thousand miles, begins with one step”.  When presented with the assignment to write blogs about something I could relate to, immediately I knew I wanted to talk about my dad and his absenteeism in my life. After talking to one of my avid followers, I realised where I went wrong. Though I have been writing blogs with the storyline of “a boy needing his father, yet too does a man”. I never really explain my story.  

The thing is this, my biological father is alive and kicking, my sister and him have a very strong relationship, to which I’m happy for her. His detachment towards me is one I questioned for years and still awaits the answer. For academic purposes, I did some research on paternal bonds and men. The answer was the same as I thought. Yes it exists, but is rare. So why? I would have once ask, may sound egoist but now I say, so what! In my previous blogs, I looked at the man in the mirror and other scenarios in my life, sometimes more of the negatives than positives. The second half is here, and some may even say the second half is rare!

I know ought to well that a boy need his father, so too does a man because I been through the boy chapter, and currently living the “man” chapter. I missed the presence of my “dad” in the childhood part of my life. The late teenage, young adult years however were different. My mom ex-boyfriend from years before reintroduced his self into my life. No stranger to me he was, looking back now, he was always on the sideline cheering me on, and I just never took notice. Some would label him Stepdad, I say no! Let’s just leave it as dad!

When I look back at my previous blogs I realised that I was constantly speaking of someone that rarely speak of me, steering a ship that had already sailed.  Now, moving forward, my blogs would come with a different twist. My development and mindset is not only based on my childhood experiences. It may sound contradictive, but it’s not.  As my lecturer told me, “the address for your blog is Triston’s heart let’s hear it”. With him saying that I thought I’ll set the platform for you’ll….My development and mindset is not only based on my childhood experiences, but also my young adult ones as well. Two men are responsible for this, my Biological Father and my Dad. Usually “two” comes with the best of both worlds, in my case it came with the Do’s and Don’ts…Because a boy need his father yet too does a man!